Considering Foster Care

March 25, 2018

 Whenever D and I think about growing our family these days, we get the solid feeling that our family is done.  We don't feel like there are any empty spaces anymore, not like we used to before Water and Earth came home. That being said, we still feel the pull to help kids and we've always talked about fostering.  We're not rushing into anything but we're talking about it more and have found an agency we want to work with.

  We have family friends that foster children in their home regularly and it's been great to get to know the kids that have stayed with them.  There are so many horror stories out there about foster care but in our experience so far, all we've seen is kids that need a safe, dependable place to stay while their family works on being a family again.  I know there are lots of trauma situations that can lead to foster care and that those can affect kids in ways that they  have a hard time processing but we feel that between our experiences with our own kids and the help of social workers, that we could help them deal with any issues that might arise.

  The kids are excited about the idea of "for right now" brothers and sisters and have been asking how soon some one might be coming to stay.  We're in the very early stages now, just getting fingerprinted and starting our paperwork but we've talked about being available for a placement after Christmas.
  The little girl with Sky in these pictures stayed with our friends for four months and got to be good friends with Sky.  We're looking forward to being able to help wonderful kids like her through challenging periods of their lives.
  Have you fostered children?  What advice would you offer to a family just getting started in the process?

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  1. Fostered for four years before international adoptions. I sometimes regret the hardships that were placed on "my kids" having to rearrange their lives so many times and then deal with the grief when they leave. Adopted kids often are even more challenged in that. I recommend going younger than your youngest; I didn't twice and I wouldn't do it again. Younger ones seem to fit in so much better.

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    1. Hi Jenny, thanks for stopping by and sharing that advice. Having been a pastor's kid and having to arrange our family life around church obligations, I can totally understand your kids feelings about that. We'll definitely have to keep that in mind if we do start having kids stay with us. Arizona has some new rules that encourage children under two to remain with their parents so I don't know that we can go younger than our youngest since he's not three yet but we'll keep age in mind when we consider accepting placements as well.

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