Our Big News
Some of you may have guessed it by now but our big news is that we're adopting again. Yay! We're doing it a little differently this time around though, and adopting from the states, through a domestic infant adoption. There are a lot of reasons for us to choose a different path for adoption for our next child but in the end, this was the option that just felt right for our family. We've found an agency that's willing to work with our unique situation, I have all our paperwork assembled (after two adoptions, I have SO many notarized copies of things!), and we'll have our home study sometime in May. I've been working on our profile book and once we turn that in, it's just a matter of waiting.
D and I really struggled with this decision, in so many ways. First, should we even add to our family? We have a girl and a boy, both are feeding themselves and sleeping through the night, why should we start over? And once we made that decision, we had to figure out how to bring that child into our family. An older child wouldn't be a good fit for our family and living where we do, we don't have access to the psychological services or educational services that an older child might need. We were turned down by the US foster to adopt programs we applied to, and we don't have the access to medical care that a special needs child would require.
Since that left us adopting a newborn, we considered adopting from the Marshall Islands again, even going so far as to get in touch with the CAA and a lawyer, but it just didn't feel right. At around the same time, I started to hear back from an agency I'd applied to online. They answered our questions, were willing to help us navigate our slightly more complicated path, and were very up front about their fees. We finally made the decision to end our progress (or lack thereof) towards an adoption here and committed to the agency.
We don't know how long the process will take- the agency tells most of their clients to be prepared for it to take between six months to a year. Our international lifestyle could work for us or against us, but the fact that we can only adopt from certain states (because of the finalization process) could make things take longer.
I'm amazed at how calm I feel about this adoption, especially in comparison to how I felt about our other two. I'm sure it's got a lot to do with having those other two at home and being busy with them. Sometimes it doesn't even feel real yet...