I was giving Sky a bath the other night when she looked up at me and said, "Brown spots, Mommy?" I said, "Brown spots, honey?" and she pointed to my hands. I smiled and said, "Those are called freckles. Mommy is only brown in spots, not all over like you are." and that was the end of it. She didn't say anything else so neither did I.
We been very open about the fact that Sky has a different skin color than D and I since she came home. We talk about how Sky has pretty black hair and Mommy has pretty red hair (and that Daddy doesn't have hair!). When we put on her lotion before bed, we say that we're keeping her pretty brown skin soft and smooth.
Her asking about my freckles caught me off guard and I answered the best I could at the time. I don't know if I should have used it as more of a teaching moment or if my matter-of-fact answer was best. Sky notices all the time now if things match- if you're wearing a green shirt and so is she, she'll make sure you know that match. I suppose the most important thing to tell her, if she asks about our family matching will be to tell her that we match in our hearts, because we're family.
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